Cry it out?
Last night was brutal. Quinn would not sleep! We finally got him to sleep around 9:30. I wake up to him Screaming at 2:30. Tony has the day off so I figure he'll get him so I can get enough sleep for work. 15 minutes later he's still screaming.
Tony and I seem to have different parenting techniques. Yes I understand the whole "let them cry and fall asleep on their own" But as a general rule I don't believe babies purposely wake up at 2:30 am and scream just to be assholes. I think it's important to check and see if something is wrong.
There is a check list -
Check for a poopoo diapy
Check the head for fever
Check if he's too cold
Figure out if it's a hunger cry
If all those check out then let him know he's ok rub his back and lay him down with out taking him from the crib. Tony on the other hand believes in letting him scream and not going in there at all. OK fine I'm not going to smash that view point because some people in fact do believe in this theory.
So I get up to check him and find that there is something wrong... He's a human popsicle! You can't cry that out. I could have put the boys toes on my coffee and had it chilled. So I put some warmer clothes on him and held him for some added body heat and he automatically drifts off. BUT while he is drifting he continues to stir and wake and grimace. I hear little tummy sounds. The boys really hungry. Can you cry out hunger? I ask Tony about making a bottle and he says, "if you give him a bottle tonight he'll wake up every night for one" he goes on to say "he gets up every night, he'll be fine, leave him" Yet another different parenting technique... I believe if the hunger wakes him then he is in fact really hungry. I'm not saying he needs a bottle in the middle of every night but maybe we should re-evaluate his menu in the day time and see if there is a problem. Yes I can hear my family now saying "but the boy is SOOO BIG... I don't' think he needs more food".
So here is my rebuttal (you knew it was coming).
1) do fat people not get hungry?
2) Should I tell him to eat the fat on his thighs first then we'll consider a bottle.
3) I was at the doctor with him just three days ago and believe it or not the doctor said Quinn is not fat and said I should give him more formula.
Quinn has only gained two pounds in the last five months... (quite possible he's going through a growth spurt) All though he is a larger boy (not fat, ask the doctor) he still needs the nutrition, babies can't diet. Quinn is not allowed to start most solids yet do to allergies. So most all his nutrition still comes from a bottle. SOOO here you have a one year old that can only have formula and fruits and veggies. Not much of a menu, and not very filling. Hence the waking up at 2:30 for more food. His school mates are already eating Pizza and cheese sandwiches. While Quinn sucks down a bottle and gives them dirty looks.
Bottom line is that Tony and I parent differently. And neither one of us agrees with the others assessment. If Tony had a blog he'd write about how wrong my assessment is. But he doesn't so he won't.
And I'm tired, Quinn is hungry...Tony is napping.
Tony and I seem to have different parenting techniques. Yes I understand the whole "let them cry and fall asleep on their own" But as a general rule I don't believe babies purposely wake up at 2:30 am and scream just to be assholes. I think it's important to check and see if something is wrong.
There is a check list -
Check for a poopoo diapy
Check the head for fever
Check if he's too cold
Figure out if it's a hunger cry
If all those check out then let him know he's ok rub his back and lay him down with out taking him from the crib. Tony on the other hand believes in letting him scream and not going in there at all. OK fine I'm not going to smash that view point because some people in fact do believe in this theory.
So I get up to check him and find that there is something wrong... He's a human popsicle! You can't cry that out. I could have put the boys toes on my coffee and had it chilled. So I put some warmer clothes on him and held him for some added body heat and he automatically drifts off. BUT while he is drifting he continues to stir and wake and grimace. I hear little tummy sounds. The boys really hungry. Can you cry out hunger? I ask Tony about making a bottle and he says, "if you give him a bottle tonight he'll wake up every night for one" he goes on to say "he gets up every night, he'll be fine, leave him" Yet another different parenting technique... I believe if the hunger wakes him then he is in fact really hungry. I'm not saying he needs a bottle in the middle of every night but maybe we should re-evaluate his menu in the day time and see if there is a problem. Yes I can hear my family now saying "but the boy is SOOO BIG... I don't' think he needs more food".
So here is my rebuttal (you knew it was coming).
1) do fat people not get hungry?
2) Should I tell him to eat the fat on his thighs first then we'll consider a bottle.
3) I was at the doctor with him just three days ago and believe it or not the doctor said Quinn is not fat and said I should give him more formula.
Quinn has only gained two pounds in the last five months... (quite possible he's going through a growth spurt) All though he is a larger boy (not fat, ask the doctor) he still needs the nutrition, babies can't diet. Quinn is not allowed to start most solids yet do to allergies. So most all his nutrition still comes from a bottle. SOOO here you have a one year old that can only have formula and fruits and veggies. Not much of a menu, and not very filling. Hence the waking up at 2:30 for more food. His school mates are already eating Pizza and cheese sandwiches. While Quinn sucks down a bottle and gives them dirty looks.
Bottom line is that Tony and I parent differently. And neither one of us agrees with the others assessment. If Tony had a blog he'd write about how wrong my assessment is. But he doesn't so he won't.
And I'm tired, Quinn is hungry...Tony is napping.
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Feed the kid if he's hungry. Like you said he doesn't get to eat the things normal one year olds eat...He's hungry damnit. Once he's able to eat pizza and other solid foods he wont wake up...Poor baby...
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Sorry I suppose I didn't say that... Yes I gave him a bottle when I realized he was hungry.
I'm going to up his bottle feedings.
Nope - wrong - I am not saying "but the boy is soooo big" - I am saying - if he is that hungry he needs to eat more - BUT I think he needs more than a bottle as his last meal before bedtime. Most babies have rice in their formula or milk before bedtime and it satisfies their hunger better. Babies move on to solid foods because formula and milk cannot sustain them for long periods - he is really outgrowning formula. Again - If he is hungry - he should eat - it's not like he's bulemic or a sugar addict or a carb freak (the latter two would be me) or craving chocolate (Yep - me again) AND like I have said before many many times, follow your own instincts - you know your baby best...no two people will ever totally agree on how to raise a child - if only they came with a damned instruction manual :~)
I agree with your mom.....sometimes docs will recommend that if your still on formula and the baby is still used to the bottle to make the famed half formula half rice mixture an hour before bedtime or so.....worth a shot...
and as far as the letting them cry......dont know if this will help but i was always told that as they get older and realize " its bedtime".....they will cry.....but when you try to do the letting them cry trick i was given really good advice.......if they are faking it so to speak......theyll fall asleep after twenty minutes or so......after that dont let it go furthur.....babies get real angry lol.....but not wise to try when they wake up in the middle of the night.............oh yeah...be glad you dont have girls with incredibly loud vocal chords ;)
the only reason I didn't give him Rice cereal in a bottle is that we give it to him as his dinner. He gets a few table spoon full ina bowl. But maybe well give him some extra in the night bottle.
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