Out of Hand
Quinn's tantrums are out of hand... it used to be that he'd have a tantrum if he didn't get his cookie or we had to come in from playing outside... now a full blown tantrum comes from simple things like putting a shirt on, taking shoes off, when his cereal bowl empties, a shut door, a commercial during his cartoons... I find myself jumping for the remote when a commercial comes on and when I pick him up from daycare I see sometimes that Tony has left him in his pajama shirt just to avoid the tantrum. The last few weeks have been spontaneous tantrums... he just looks at us and throws a fit. We can't even take him in public. We plan around shopping trips, dinners and outings in general because he is so bad. When did this happen? When did we begin to fear our son... Who's the damn boss here?
This behavior has got to change... So today I have reserved myself to letting him have one long tantrum all day... I will not cater to it, I will not pick him up, I will not jump at his call. So bring it on little man, I'm ready for ya!
My only confusion is do I ignore the tantrum or tell him "no" and to "stop"? There are different points of view on this subject...
This behavior has got to change... So today I have reserved myself to letting him have one long tantrum all day... I will not cater to it, I will not pick him up, I will not jump at his call. So bring it on little man, I'm ready for ya!
My only confusion is do I ignore the tantrum or tell him "no" and to "stop"? There are different points of view on this subject...
22 Comments:
You don't reward bad behavior - period. Your attention is a reward to him - good attention/bad attention/any attention... I am of the - "ignore him until he is acting the way you want him to" school of thought - then lavish the attention on him....he will come to realize what works and what doesn't - This is all just a test - really - How else will he learn.....Your job right now is to survive the test..... :~) Let me know if you need a break....
I could use a week long break...thanks for asking! I'll drop him off with a suitcase.
On my way.
you're right, I have heard the negative attention thing too. I'll ignore his tantrums... It's just hard to do sometimes.
Ahhh tantrums....now theres something I dont miss lol
I agree with your mom that's what i did.....if I said no or tried to forceably stop the tantrums the kiddies seemed to gain a sense of...."ha ha...I got what I wanted anyway".....but in the long run as they get older and try to push MORE buttons...they'll at least know that they cant just mess with ya or " break you' to get what they want......hard it may be....beneficial in the end!
oh yeah.......a nice beer or two.....or 50 lol...at the end of the night helps also ;)
I can remember putting you (and/or Chrissy) in your cribs and sitting in the bathroom with a book and the radio blaring to try to drown out your screams when you were throwing temper tantrums. It is very nerve wracking - I agree - but all part of the learning process. Let's face it - they're gonna do what works - whatever gets your attention...Quinn is smart - he'll figure it out fast if you and Tony both stick to it...
So that's what's wrong with me!
I agree with your mother. Reward good behavior and TRY to ignore the bad.(I mean unless he's going to hurt himself or another being) LOL
....hmmm...and I thought your phobia of bathrooms was due to the hot peppers!
Ray - now there is a sore subject. vous grande merde!
Mel - actually he does try to hurt himself... he slaps himself in the face repeatedly during a tantrum. When he was teething he used to, I guess get mad at his teeth... lol ... and smack the side that hurt. I used to get so upset that I'd run to him and try and soothe him... I suppose he learned to smack his face for attention. Now I just hold his hand back and say no.
.......*cough*...kinda left yourself wide open there.....I mean....all those hot peppers....well....they dont call 'um hot for nothin now do they....so I guess it is a.....'sore subject'....
try some nice tomatoes
Règle de la truite brune vous
haha, you just told me to regulate my brown trout...
Would you like me to buy a fish tank filter?
hmmm.....never was any good at that confounded language......
awww, don't be too down on your self Ray... English is a tough language to learn.
Hay!....I em and edumacated indibiduale....I dunt hafta stan for dat!
Well - by all means - sit down....
haha, nice one mom
..ya know....it's difficult enough dealing with your oldest ;)
Who do you think taught her her ways???
So is this also the reason for the massive gas problem she has.....or did she learn this on her own!
Some things are best discovered and perfected on your own....
dems fighten words! put up your dukes Ray!
HIYAAAAAA!
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