Little Bullies
Tony witnessed Q's first real bully at daycare yesterday... the kid pushed Quinn against a wall and knocked him down :( Quinn just looked at the kid. Tony, who was raging pissed, made the kid apologize. But I wonder how to handle this situation at this age? If Quinn was older I would tell him to give the kid one warning then knock him on his ass if he doesn't stop. I'm assuming that is too early to tell a four year old?
I just didn't expect to encounter kids being that mean at four... I thought at most around eight. Q's a sensitive kid, I can tell already he's a lover not a fighter. The last thing I want is for him not to be able to handle his own. But I desperately don't want to undo that sweet disposition of his. It makes him, him.
For now I told him to tell his teachers... is that effective? Or just encouraging a tattle tail type personality?
I just didn't expect to encounter kids being that mean at four... I thought at most around eight. Q's a sensitive kid, I can tell already he's a lover not a fighter. The last thing I want is for him not to be able to handle his own. But I desperately don't want to undo that sweet disposition of his. It makes him, him.
For now I told him to tell his teachers... is that effective? Or just encouraging a tattle tail type personality?
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Hey Sharon,
I'm a little late jumping in on this post. It was compelling, because I wonder about this same thing when my little guy encounters bullies.
I've gone through numerous scenarios in my head about this, and can't quite figure out what I'm going to do, either. I've considered both options you listed, and a few others. My current thought is to tell him to get back up and walk away, and only strike back as a last resort.
Of course, my child is only two now, but I still think about this kind of stuff. I just didn't realize it would only be a couple of years away!
Sorry you're having to deal with this so soon, and I hope the little man is OK.
Rob
Hi Rob!
This issue seems to have worked it's self out. All though the other child is pushy it turns out he's just an overly hyper child "bull in a china shop syndrome" .. he was pushy and ruff but in retrospect I think the kid just didn't know manors rather then purposely trying to bully.
But what I have learned from the situation ... after talking to Quinn and explaining to him what a bully is and how to handle himself we found him making up stories about all the other kids "hurting" him for attention... Which needed to be stopped right away. So now instead of making a big deal out of it like we did originally I just tell him to walk away from the situation and that he can choose who he is friends with.
Of course the more I play down the situation (If I know he's lying) the more elaborate the tales get... lol.
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